Monday, 30 April 2012

High End Escort Service Provider in Bangalore City Working as core team lead in Bangalore Girl Friend Experience


Sex as Defined by Ranjitha


Duty- if done with your wife..
Art- if done with your love..
Education- if done with a virgin..
Tuition- if done with your teacher..
Job- if done with your boss/secretary..
Science- if done with a fertile lady..
Business- if done with an escort.
Social work - if done with your neighbor
Charity- if done with a widow
Sacrifice- if done with your own hand



Name: Ms Ranjitha

Age: Early  20s.

Business: High End Escort Service Provider in Bangalore City Working as core team lead in Bangalore Girl Friend Experience and professional Classical Bharatha natyam Dancer

Meeting place: ?

What you want me to wear: Sari or a Chudhidhar!!

What you want me to do: Your Girl Friend for the hour or day ?!!


She's smart, beautiful and ambitious, college educated, fluent in Hindi, Kannada, Tamil and English   and trained as a classical Bharatha Nat yam Dancer.

But she isn't the girl you're taking home to Mom.

She's an INR 20,000/-an-hour high-end Escort Girl in Bangalore working for Bangalore Girl Friend Experience.

When you shell out for the kind of escort  you get what you pay for.

Masters of the universe - industry leaders, powerful politicians and celebrities - want more than just quick sex. They're seeking brains, beauty and ambition, someone "nice" who won't make them feel as if they've been forced to slum it for sex.

"The agency Bangalore Girl Friend Experience for which I worked pushed cultural background," says Ranjitha ,They are  Escort women in our team you wouldn't feel embarrassed about taking out to dinner with your business colleagues."

"The average guy who pays for a high-end  Escort service in Bangalore  is between 40 and 50 and he books for three hours,"


"Let's just say that sex lasts for about two minutes and the rest of the time the  Escort girl is schmoozing him and feeding his ego."

Today's high-end call girl in Bangalore city  commands any thing  from INR 20,000/ to INR 30,000/  for one hour. But the hefty price tag comes with some outrageous demands.

"Look, the more VIP they are  they have on, the more bizarre their requests can get and the bossier they can be,"  who has been flown around India to service CEOs, Business men and professional Actors in Bollywood and in Chennai.

"They are very arrogant and they bring their power in society behind closed doors with them. The more white-collar gentlemen want the risky behavior. They are more likely to ask you to have sex without protection and then throw in an extra couple of thousand for your trouble," Ranjitha  says, adding that condoms are almost always mandatory, even at the top of the pricing scale.

Clients often offered to triple Ranjitha's rate if she would forgo protection.

"My health is worth more,"Ranjitha  says.

For six years,  Ranjitha's identity as a Call Girl remained a closely guarded secret: a tantalizing mystery for all those hooked on the of high-class call girl in Bangalore.

But she's now revealed that,  she worked from 2005 to late 2011 with Bangalore Girl Friend Experience  as a INR 20,000/-an-hour high-class call girl through  whom she met good clients  two or three times a week.


As a Free Lancing Escort service Provider Ranjitha  worked as an INR 20,000/-an-hour high-class call girl and when it money? ' It means a lot. I can't honestly remember. Somewhere between one or two lacs per month ,' she says.

'I couldn't find a job in my chosen field because I didn't then have my Degree and I got through my savings a lot faster than I thought I would.'Yeah,I  could work behind in a Call Center in Bangalore, but how many hours would you have to do  that to pay the rent for decent accommodation in Indra Nagar? I couldn't get a Loan from the local Money lender'

'When she took the escort job, her Family members begged her not to sleep with any of the clients. 'We at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience chose to believe she was a modern lady  rather than a high-class call girl, paid to chat to clients over a drink or accompany them to black-tie events.’ But what on earth drove such an accomplished and educated woman to undertake sex work,


By 2009, Ranjitha as a high-class call girl  was earning around INR 20,000/ an hour, sometimes more, seeing "two to three clients a day for at least two to three hours each."When it came to catering to the needs of her well-heeled customers, "I was always on call."

For her, prostitution was a job, not a path to a celebrity lifestyle. In a good year, the young lady saw up to four clients a day, men she describes as "just guys, like the ones you see at the supermarket is happy or fixing something in your house" and earned up to INR 10,000/ for 30 minutes of her services. She found her customers through Bangalore Girl Friend Experience team and is happy with the low sharing ratio  they do and says she for her life is indebted to the team at
Bangalore Girl Friend Experience.

"I needed that money. I had  huge debt. Then later, I needed the money to pay for food and rent for my double bed room Flat at Indira Nagar" she says. In May of this year, Ranjitha  says, she decided to quit for good after a client, a doctor, hurt her during sex. "I figured he of all people would know the limitations of a person's body, but he didn't and I thought I was going to die."


While these moments in the sun tend to glamorize prostitution, women in the sex industry and those who study them say a prostitute's real life can also be difficult and dangerous. What's harder to get agreement on is whether the sex industry victimizes women.

Risks and rewards

When Ranjitha first met the team at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience , she was vulnerable and alone. Her family had neglected her, she says, and she was often the target of psychological abuse. She "didn't have enough self-esteem"

Ranjitha on the other hand, felt more in control and says she enjoyed aspects of her job, especially the money and the opportunity to "party in Star hotels in Bangalore."

"I never felt that I was a victim, as opposed to the girls on the street," says Ranjitha . "There was definitely anxiety at the beginning, but it got easier almost immediately because Bangalore Girl Friend Experience  clientele mainly consisted of successful, well-mannered business men. We were marketed as princesses and the men who hired us treated us as such."

Ranjitha  was  so lucky. "I was always afraid, every single time," she recalls. "I did this for 5 years and I never stopped being afraid. The job isn't like in the movies."

Victims or not?

For Ranjitha working for a high-end escort agency  such as Bangalore Girl Friend Experience or as a high-class call girl is preferable because the money is better and it's less risky than walking the streets or doing her own ads in web sites. Her thoughts are divided over whether the sex industry victimizes the women.

"Prostitution causes deep psychological harm,"Ranjitha says "The words that are said to these women on the job, the names they are called by their [customers] and pimps hurt them emotionally. They are frequently abused physically. Not to mention that the shelf life of women in prostitution is short -- if women manage to stay alive in it, they don't last a long time."

Most women working as call girls, says Ranjitha , are doing it for the money, like any other job. "You have women coming in from low-paying service jobs... who decide to work in a brothel because they need more money to make ends meet," she says. "Then you have former escorts, women who want to get away from stress of working illegally. Then you have the 'professionals, women from the cine field  or free lancing part time Call Girls  who see their work as a profession"


While Ranjitha   agrees that abuse and violence can and does occur in the sex industry, it rarely happens in Bangalore Girl Friend Experience, she says. "These women can leave their jobs. They can walk out the door and quit. They are not prisoners there. And most of them stay because the money is good and the sharing ratio here at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience is 80:20 and we girls get guaranteed Income and more for our Sweat."

They  are regularly tested for HIV, and have the option of refusing a client. For Ranjitha , however, it's the money that makes being a sex worker appealing.

"It's a job. I am a single and this job allowed me to pay for my House rent ,my debts and our car. I could not do that working at any Call center in White Fields."

Getting out, or trying to  agree that even under the best circumstances, being a sex worker isn't a job that they want to pursue forever. Retirement seems like a good idea to call girl Ranjitha , who says she is happy to be done with that part of her life.

She's also planning to set up a consultation with help of  the team  at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience "where I can offer other girls advice and guidance. I have made a lot of bold choices in my life but I think many of them have been misguided."

For now, Ranjitha  is concentrating on raising some more Money  . But despite the harm and fear her last client caused her, she still hasn't changed her phone number -- the one that keeps her attached to her former clients. Without that number, she's officially out of business.

"I keep meaning to change it," she says, "but then I think, what if I need to earn some money fast? It's hard to let go."

What does it take to become high-end independent high class escort with Bangalore Girl Friend Experience?

Making the jump from average escort to high-end is also fairly easy, with one big caveat: you have to be able to back up everything you say.

If you claim you’re well-traveled then your passport had better be the envy of your friends. If you claim to have a degree in art history, then you need to start learning about art and art history, if you can’t remember the difference between aspirin and Advil, don’t pretend to be in medicine or claim to be chemistry major.

Why is this so important? As an independent high class escort, minimum appointments are much longer than an hour and much of that time is spent in conversation. Generally, the more a man spends, the more brains he expects in his companion. You really need to know what you’re talking about – on whatever subject you choose – because the clients who can afford you are bright, educated and successful. You need to know a wide range of topics, from the serious to bollywood,keeping up with current events is a must, as is keeping pace with your fields of interest.

You don’t have to turn into a trivia master; usually having an understanding of the main issues on a given topic is enough. Form your own thoughts and opinions about these issues and share them. Talk about your passions or hobbies. Share experiences. And most of all — learn to ask questions to get your clients to open up and talk about themselves. Naturally, this is first-date kind of stuff. As you forge a relationship with a steady client the talk turns more personal (and this is where boundaries become important).

Further defining the independent high class escort.

While attractiveness and sense of personal style are all very subjective, good manners and sophistication is not. A high-end escort attracts well-heeled clients (that’s the point). She has to be their equal and even impress them. She can’t do this if she’s not as she claims to be because the escort presented online is who clients expect to meet.

High-end escorts tend to be very romantic with their clients – even lusty. Fewer clients mean more energy devoted to each client. (And clients expect this.) This doesn’t mean you must make risky decisions. It means if you’re not someone who truly enjoys sex with your clients, you are probably not cut out to be a high-end escort. This is a choice for girls who are following a calling, as opposed to merely paying bills. It’s not emotionally healthy to pretend otherwise, and it’s not fair to your clients.

On the other hand, high-end escorts are not some super-rarified breed. Most of that impression is smoke and mirrors, a product of very clever marketing. (They are smart girls, after all.) An average escort who is naturally attractive, articulate, has a well-rounded life, educated (either formally, through mainstream work or extensive travel) and enjoys escort work can probably move to the higher-end by indulging in what’s known as resume-padding. A little expansion of her skills and experiences, along with some clever wording, professional photos, and a professional agency like Bangalore Girl Friend Experience – a new high-end escort is born!

Raising Your Rates

Raising time/rate minimums is scary. I’ve seen several high-end girls start with two or three –hour minimums barely more expensive than regular hourly rates, then give themselves raises as they become more popular. There are many high-end escorts in our team at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience who have been around for a few years and their rates have greatly increased. That’s never a sign of desperation. Still, an escort never knows if her business will get better or dry up completely.

My own observation? A timid raise just above the level of average, say from INR 20,000 to 30,000/hr won’t work. Business might stay the same or drop off. There won’t be a major overall change. Moving from INR 20,000 to 30,000/hr /3 hrs would change things. It’s a whole new level of clientele. Although the (calculated) hourly rate and the escort doesn’t change;

As with most escorts, high-end escorts at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience want their clients to return. They have a lower volume of clients than average escorts so having a high retention rate is important. If they were not the person they claimed to be, their clients would not come back. There are fewer clients who can afford high-end rates than the number of clients who can afford average hourly rates. If any escort girl was completely misrepresenting herself at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience, word would get around and her business would dry up.

Getting Business as High-End Escort at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience.

The magic of some high-end escorts here at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience is simply their looks and charm. It impresses clients, regardless of who the escort really is. It intimidates other escorts. Throw in an aloof attitude and lots of name-brand-dropping — there’s the whole mystique of some high-end escorts here at my concern Bangalore Girl Friend Experience.

I’ve worked with a handful of high-end escorts here at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience. One clearly was just gusty enough to charge high rates and was not “high-end.” Another was obviously perfect for the job of being a part-time lover to her loyal clients. None of them were radically different than I. Their advantages: pricier formal educations and travel experience; plus that all-important rate/time minimum. There was no real difference in appearance, attitude, intelligence, how they treated their clients, handled their business administration or any of the other things that supposedly make a high-end escort stand out. High-end escorts are a self-defined group. If you think you are high-end, then you are.

Looking at the Range of Rates

This could lead readers to believe that all escorts here at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience be charging several thousands per hour just to make ends meet or to have decent reputations. Not true. As with everything in life, some people are drawn to some things, others to other things. And, as with everything, there is the full spectrum of experiences and rates in the escort world: high, middle and low. The law of averages being what it is, most escorts fall in the middle range, as do most clients. There’s nothing wrong with this. The mid-range itself is pretty broad. Bangalore Girl Friend Experience average rate for one-hour appointments is INR 5000/.

A lot of escorts could successfully raise their rates, And Bangalore market has a wide range of personalities and rate structures within it. The barrier to entry seems to be an escort’s wherewithal to play the game and succeed. No one should pretend to be something they’re not. But if there’s a desire to give one’s self a raise, it can be done.

What skills can earn a woman INR 20,000/ an hour?  Ranjitha examines the supply and demand of high-end escort girls ...

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Among the many things we are left to consider, there is one I still can't quite get over: the staggering price of a high-end independent high class escort. What service can anyone provide to justify up to INR 20,000/ an hour?

Although sex is a unique commodity, it must still obey market principles of supply and demand. We do understand how the prostitution market is exceptionally sensitive to large fluctuations in wealth and expectations, and so it might be considered a lagging indicator. I mentioned that while most people consider it an extremely undesirable job, on the high end "it can be quite lucrative and requires few skills (though a fair helping of unequally distributed natural endowments)."

"Inferior skills?","Obviously, you have not visited one...To be able to command premium pricing on any market, the service must be superior."

The demand side:

What explains the enormous income gap between high-end independent high class escort and ordinary streetwalkers or even typical working women?

As with all things, a premium price signals quality. Men who seek out high-end prostitutes may question the value of a bargain. The industry feeds their narcissism and part of the fantasy is feeling special enough to purchase that multi-diamond woman.

It seems purchasing sex is like buying Prawns or good fish in the Ulsoor Market: it should come from a reputable provider. Meeting a woman in a clean, well-kept environment signals higher quality and lowers the risk of an infection substantially.

Some argue that such no-strings transactions are ultimately less harmful to both career and marriage than taking a mistress. Premium buys discretion. But at these prices.

The supply side:

The most obvious reason why high-end prostitutes can charge so much is that they are doing something illegal. Being arrested for escorting will certainly hinder future earnings prospects in other industries, A premium fee is justified by the risks involved in working in an illegal industry, as well as the related stigma of being paid for sex.

Woman cannot be both an escort and a wife. Combine this with the fact that marriage can be an important source of income for women, and it follows that prostitution must pay better than other jobs to compensate for the opportunity cost of forgone marriage market earnings.

The women should provide not only possess exceptional beauty, but also intelligence and sophistication. Some are successful professionals in other high-profile industries. Though this last claim seems dubious, the women must be exceptionally attractive and sufficiently intelligent to hold a customer's attention. Unlike their low-end counterparts, high-end call girls are expected to supply some level of companionship, and often accompany clients to dinners or parties. Because a beautiful and intelligent woman inevitably has other job (and marriage) options, a very high wage is necessary to encourage them to forgo other opportunities, and risk arrest, disease and shame.

While INR 20,000/ an hour may sound high, and escorts must spend a great deal maintaining their value without immediate compensation. Much time and money is spent on grooming: hair removal, expensive hair-cuts (one stylist in MG Road I visit regularly  claims several of his clients are escorts, who spend at least INR 5000/ a month on extensions and color) and regular exercise. And maintain an expensive designer wardrobe. Frequent visits to the doctor are necessary to protect against sexually-transmitted diseases.

Ultimately, the decision to become a high-end independent high class escort is often not only an economic one, but is determined by a woman's attitude toward sex. For many women no amount of money would ever entice them into escorting. You cannot deconstruct the economics of selling sex without acknowledging that, sadly, many women who enter the trade, even at the high end, have at some point in their lives been victims of abuse. Economic reasoning has little sway over how a woman values her body.

The market for sex in Bangalore is good and ultimately determines a price like any other industry. Sex was one of the first goods ever traded. It commanded a price, high-end prostitutes do have a unique skill-set.

Women have the same career opportunities as men these days. My part time career is in a call center in Koramangala,I actively work on a daily to overcome the sexist views of men in my industry. As a result, I am as valued and respected as any of the men in the office. I am not married for the financial stability or as a source of income. I am fully capable of financial success and independence for myself.

Regarding high-end escorts with significant others at home, sex with hobbyists (the term used within the escort industry for clients of high-end escorts) is business. It's not a breach of the intimacy and bond between two people in a committed relationship. Clients can not be compared to a lover in an extramarital affair, they're...clients.

The role of an escort is to fulfill the fantasies of the hobbyist. A good portion of hobbyists desire to know little of an escort's personal life. They don't want to know about other men, they pay us for time devoted entirely to them. And most don't want the added fear of knowing there might just be a jealous husband in the equation. They tend to be equally unreliable in admitting there's a Mrs. at home.

Escorts come in all price ranges, but specifically high-end escorts, get paid to leave. We get paid to provide an experience without all the headaches and heartaches of a relationship. As an escort, I realized one day how much less expensive it is for men of means to hire an escort than to have a mistress or in some instances, to marry. There are gold-diggers out there and they typically target wealthy men. Trophy wives are pricey to maintain. And often, even pricier to divorce.

High-end escorts also get paid to keep a higher level of confidentiality than even doctors and lawyers do. There are a lot of unspoken codes within the team members at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience. Those of us who have lived and live by them aren't terribly pleased when novices and attention-seekers violate those codes within the eye of the public. Even the most risqué "tell-all" books don't lay bare a lot of the industry's unspoken codes or divulge to excess things said in confidence by high-profile individuals who hire escorts. And to the business men, politicians, and celebrities who pay INR 20,000/ and hour, that alone is worth the price.

In a nutshell, high-end escorts get paid to provide an unforgettable time of fulfilled fantasies and incomparable companionship without the headaches and lasting entanglements of a romantic relationship or streetwalker. Honestly...if men  had hired escorts instead of having affairs, do you think many people's life would be nearly as messy as it currently is? Probably not.

And, it is far from being "easy money." It takes more than good looks and being able to have sex (there seems to be a  common misconception: successful individuals in the sex industry are successful because they've been blessed with looks. Success in the sex industry comes to people who are prudent, cutthroat professionals who often go on to find success in other industries). Successful high-end escorts in my team at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience are BUSINESSWOMEN. They successfully operate highly lucrative businesses because they are intelligent, driven, and know how to balance a checkbook as well as manage wealth, and I am working as a team lead at a call center earning much more than most of the men I know.

First, you need to decide what exactly you want. "Aspiring independent high class escort" denotes someone who wants to work for an agency. If you want to do that, honey there are plenty in the internet  you can call and interview with. They'll tell you what to do, when to do it and how much their cut is.

If you dream on a larger scale, there are plenty of online sources for an aspiring escort. It takes diligence to find them and LOTS of research to find out what works and what doesn't. In that regard, you're on your own. If you want it badly enough, you'll make do the footwork to see it through. In that research, you'll figure out if it's right for you or not. If you feel that my advice is too much work, it's not for you. Or if you get lazy and cut corners, you'll get to learn the hard way. Because success doesn't come to those who are unwilling to chase it and will surely slip away from those who don't know what to do with it and how to manage it.

Remember, too there's an emotional cost or curse in escorting and worse still if you are from an orthodox family back ground like my self. There’s a reason other than getting busted with in your family members and that there are a whole lot of high-end escorts out there, including my self.  

I am proud of being at Bangalore Girl Friend Experience was accepted for training and eventually after a very strict and rigorous course, I became what we girls liked to joke about……..One of Bangalore Girl Friend Experience escort girls! I’m sorry if you were expecting something juicier from my story but you see, I’m not that type of girl to reveal all !!!! And I was told in brief to define independent high class escort and hope I did my best. Thank you for listening. Goodnight.

Please do feel free to contact me at team@bangaloreGirlFriendssexperience.com and will be glad to guide you to be a successful Escort and do please include your private number and the convenient time to call you.


Ranjitha


team@bangaloreGirlFriendssexperience.com

career@bangaloreGirlFriendssexperience.com



Friday, 4 November 2011

Pretty Women in the streets




Pretty Women in the streets 
I took a much needed extended get away. I didn't actually accomplish what i had hoped, which was just to be somewhere else and forget about everything for awhile, but i tried my best. If only i could leave my mind behind - but my life experiences follow me, and with it the worries, tears, and stubbornness to survive i have come to live by.


I wont elaborate on my endless struggle to find peace within- but something happened while i was away that i wanted to share.


I was out driving with someone else one night, it was hot outside and it was early evening. We stopped at a red light and beside us walked an attractive woman, very tight, Saree - super high heels. She walked with a purpose, slowly and shaking what god had given her while she peered into each stopped car with a coy smile. My heart broke for her. I got a lump in my throat and thoughts went through my mind wishing her safety, sorrow for her circumstances that led her to walk that night, and wondering if she would consider taking a break and grabbing a bite to eat. It just hit a deep nerve to see her, and wonder who she was and what was her story. It was myself, looking at me standing there, trying to look brave. I never walked the streets but could feel what she felt.


Anyway, the person i was with simply looked at her and said "is that a f*&$#ing prostitute? Nasty...." And i didn't know what to say back. I know this is the response from the majority of people, and it is so sad that people judge each other like this. I thought of defending her, of rationalizing all the reasons she might be there, or getting mad - but then i might say too much, give too much away, and i couldn't risk that. So i simply said, "I don't know, maybe, its none of our business"


And they mumbled a few more nasty thoughts as we drove off. Whoever you were that night, and all the others out there along side her and in hotel rooms- I thought of you that night. I prayed for you to be safe and for your circumstances to change. I felt your hurt and fear like it was my own, and i wish i could change things. Not only for you but for the ignorant who judge other people without walking in their shoes, or even so much as considering what those shoes might have gone through.


Kamal Reddy in Bangalore


Hmmm...interesting. I don't see prostitutes much, but I don't think the word 'nasty' comes to mind. I sometimes look at them, or drug addicts, or homeless people and I think a little. We all were all babies once. Someone held us and cared for us. Then we take whatever path we take, sometimes willingly, sometimes unwillingly. Some people have mental illnesses and that's why they are homeless. Some people were abused as children and they turn to walking the streets. Then there arethose who are abused and turn into Millionaires! :) I mean there could be many scenarios or reasons as to why people end up where they are today. So like you said, you don't know unless you have walked in someone's shoes. But the thing is, no one cares to walk in your shoes or know your past. They won't read your life resume and say, "Oh now I get it!" They judge you based on what they see today :(


How many Prostitutes actually work on the streets? The ones I deal with are only online.
My heart goes out to you, , and to the ones who are undergoing what you have gone through. No, it is not pity (I know you don't need that) but it is compassion, the unconditional love for a fellow human being.


It certainly is harsh to judge people. At the same time (with no less compassion for women like you who are fighting with determination to keep life going), I think you too are at times harsh in judging your clients.


I am a married man with zero extra-marital excursions. She has strayed on 2-3 occasions within a short span of time but she has apologized and I have left it at that. Yes, it took me a while to get over it, but doing what she did in response was not an option I wanted to pursue (though I did consider it in anger). I travel a lot on business and I have had opportunities present themselves but my fidelity for her has always won over the temptation. I hope to God that it stays that way.


But I know some friends who do look for associations outside of marriage. At times, they have had it in the same suite as mine in hotels, with me staying away from that action in a different room of the same suite. I have seen escorts at close quarters. I have talked to them as my friends "get themselves together" after action. It is the plight of one such escort that got me searching for articles and led me to find your Site. As I had surmised, it isn't all fun and easy money. My best wishes and prayers, for all your wounds to heal; for you to gain freedom from mental torture; and for you to settle down in a life in which escorting will only be a distant memory.


Every coin has two sides though. I know the personal lives of my friends who have been clients of escorts. I know why many of them chose this extramarital company. From what I have seen, none of them think of their time with an escort as buying her body. They are human too and have missed out on warmth in life and are seeking it where there won't be an emotional aftermath. Everybody has a story.


I am not trying to justify their actions but I am just asking you to not judge them harshly. Just like you feel bad when someone calls an escort names, I do feel bad for the male kind when you call them names. I know some such men and they are gems among persons if you eliminate this small blemish. Just as your life pushed you to offer this service, their life has pushed them to use it. In an ideal world, both needs would vanish.
Lots of love and compassion,
Navaneethan (not my real name)
August 18, 2011


Hi


I have been reading your Site, i am an ex working girl, i can relate entirely. I have been escorting daily for the past 5 years on bangalore city, my life before escorting was very challenging in all areas,......family, jobs and relationships, im 30 yrs old now, no children, i left the business 3 months ago. I went to my mothers, locked myself in a bedroom for 3 months to come to terms with leaving the biz and to gain some sanity, i had a few hundred Rupees to pay direct debits, i decided my life was more important than debt and i would rather go to prison for not paying them than continue that life, it's been a slow emotional process over the past 3 months, i have put on weight from no excerise lol and look far from glamorous, but i have a long term plan. I went on a alot of dates with rich men immediately after leaving, in a vunerable state lol, i decided i would rather escort than be with someone i did not love or more importantely who had the skills to buy me, if some of the sugar daddy types tried harder like the skint men in being funny, talkative, listening taking a general interest and not being pushy for sex they would not need to flash the cash to buy someone on a permanent basis, the rich men i met drained me on a level i couldn't describe through typing, i would of rather escorted than date any of the men i met! I went to my doctors, thought to hell with it im confessing, i asked for counselling i start next week, 1 hour per week, looking forward to getting some life experience off my chest! i have made the decision to stay 100% single until i have regular job, one step and one day at a time, im applying for jobs at the moment, it has taken 3 months of doing absolutely nothing other than eating and watching tv, being locked away to get to this stage, i have no regrets in life, i did what i did to survive, until i decided i had to stop surviving and face the real world. I made escorting my life, it should of been a hobby in desperate times lol, when you don't work independentely you get sucked into the life. I hope by Deepavali to have a regular job, when i decide not be 100% single i shall hit the dating sites looking for normal guys wanting a relationship with regular jobs, as far away from the escort world as possible, men like that are out there and those are the types of men i want to be spending time with. I am currentely in the process of removing all traces of my secret life off line, not an easy process but one that i would like to be done. I write this for anyone who may find it uselful, there isn't much help for ex working girls, i quickely found this out, i learned i had to do it myself, i also learned i wanted to be ruthless in my own life but in safe ways, this is an honest account for anyone interested in how i independently left the buisiness without jumping into the arms of a pimp, client, s daddy or general loser, for the first time in over 5 years i have control of my life and my future. Good luck and god bless to all 
Revathy not my real name of coarse 
August 19, 2011 1:51 AM
Tantalizing Ambika said...
I haven't had a chance to view ur whole Site but I'm curious to know what u tell ur family and friends when asked ur occupation? 
Me myself have been thinking and contemplating getting into the business purely BC I enjoy sex very much, even when it involves someone I may despise. I figure why not get paid for something that I do for free already. Lol the men can't tell that I am not attracted to them and so its sometimes a shocker when I say I wont be seeing them again. Anyway I've been trying to come up with my job that I want to say, hell I would say but everyone knows I can't dance.


August 19, 2011 8:34 PM


Kadamvari said...


ahh this brought tears to my eyes... I'm "retiring" or should be retired I guess because I stopped working a couple of weeks ago. This is a lot harder than I had anticipated. I feel stupid because so many people warned me that it's a hard industry to leave, and I thought "meh, I'm stronger than that, and have goals and a plan". Sure enough I've been job hunting for over a month now. I've worked several square jobs and have a good resume for someone my age. I haven't gotten a single interview and I'm struggling so much internally right now about whether or not to go back. I have about 5 lacs INR left in my bank account, and it's slowly disappearing. 
I told everyone who knew I was working that I quit, so it's hard to go back on that. Plus it's caused a lot of tension between myself and the guy I'm crazy about... how do you just quit? I'm finding it impossible to fight the temptation to go back and make money, but I was hating every minute of it in the final months of me working... so torn... wish there was a better way...
August 21, 2011 6:28 PM


I can imagine how hard it would be to be used to a certain amount of money and then can't find a job. I'm coming from nothing so minimal wage looks good right now. And I'm happy to report that I wont be pursuing the escort business :)


Nayanthra
August 22, 2011 4:07 PM


I think it is possible for someone to accept her identity as a prostitute and not be bothered by anyone referring to them or (anyone else for that matter)as such.


August 23, 2011 12:06 PM


Anonymous said...
Working girls don't have time to think, ever, there thoughts are only immediate ones, there's no waiting for 5pm home time or end of shift, they don't dread mondays or the next day because there mind is too numb to feel dread, they leave work numb, do what they have to after work numb, then go back to work next day. NUMB.


August 24, 2011 3:05 PM


Anonymous said...
I am a working girl as well. Had retired for over 2 years and entered an affair with a client ( said I never would) that led to a civil case that is ongoing and my need to return to work.


I haven't read your site, but I will and very grateful that you are here. Escorting is seclusion, and right now it is simply nice to know someone out here is sharing.


I don't feel so alone.


Your Site is private due to the proceedings but I am writing and will be opening when I can, in the meantime... I am going to read.


August 30, 2011 12:13 PM
Anonymous said...
34 Babu male here, answering anonymous:


"you are putting women up on a pedestal and being an idiot."


I've always been shy around girls ever since I was a little kid. Thanks for calling me an idiot because of that.


"The longer you think that sex HAS to be an act of love you are going to start being even more socially awkward."


I've pondered these things many times.
I can't seperate sex and love. My heart needs to be into it, that's all there is to it. 
It could partly be because I'm a wounded soul. But I think it is part of my nature too.


"View this as a professional business transaction to help you get over your obvious fear of women and to help you start building up the confidence to ask a girl out if you think this is beneath you."


How would this improve my confidence? As an example, when I was for an extended period in the hospital, I felt completely comfortable talking with female nurses and physical therapists because they are professional and treat me with respect. But that still didn't improve my confidence for instance when it came to interacting with other patients. I kept mostly to myself.